Today isn't a momentous day, just another day. I do miss blogging sometimes. I'm a different person now. Same face in the mirror, just changed inside.
I've been through some hell on earth. I'm still here. Weary and scarred and broken.
Change has become constant. New people, places and things in our life. I've cut out the garbage people. People that don't value me or my family. Health changes, surgeries. I don't have the strength for the negative anymore.
I've had a lot of counselling in the last year. Guess what? I can't do it all! I can't be all things to all people! I take responsibility for only myself and hold others accountable for their own actions.
Holding others accountable for themselves has pissed off a few people. Stop playing a victim/martyr. Poor choices and poor decisions do not equal a huge pity party.
Behaviour/actions show your priorities and intent, not words.
It's sad but we've all become very wary of people now. We have boundaries in place and enforce them.
There will also be a hell storm of epic proportions if you hurt one of my kids.
I am not in any way comparable to either of my parents. (Which is one of my greatest accomplishments!!) this should go in my list of positives...and in my resume and euology.
There are some positives:
Our little family is tight. The 5 of us have clung together through some rough times.
Our finances are not a worry.
We've been able to travel a bit more this year and have found great enjoyment in new experiences.
We are heading south to get out of the cold for a couple of weeks.
If our health permits; a ski trip in the rockies again Feb or March
Next summer we have a west coast visit ( in the planning stages).
Next winter tbd but it will be somewhere warm again.
2019 will be my Scotland trip for my 50th.
Financials:
Working part time.
Investing in TFSA's to max out this year.
RRSP's maxed out
Paying with credit card for all purchases and paying off in full every month to get points.
Keeping my non-trackable cash to $80 per month. (Always seems to buy a little hockey player post game smoothies!)
Take care everyone.
1 comment:
Good to hear from you! You've been missed. It sounds to me like you've really taken control of that which you can control - yourself, your family, your finances. Your plans have stayed in place and you've rolled with the punches. Now you are seeing the rewards - a healthy family, financial security, travel and other benefits. Now that you aren't looking after EVERYONE I hope that your health is improving.
Stay in touch!
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