When I drove our car back home - the gas tank was full!
I thanked my sister for that today as she did not use 1/2 a tank. She in turn thanked me for what I have done for her and her kids. Said that it was the very least she could do for us. Shocker.
She is in serious debt, serious marital turmoil and in serious denial. She won't quit spending money. Each of her kids got an ipod, with a nice case, with insurance against everything. That was over $1000 right there. Plus clothes, toys, games and crafts.
I told her that she needs to stop spending money she doesn't have. I told her that she needs counselling. She says "I know" and does nothing.
What I fear is that she the idiot and the idiot she's married to will loose the house. I fear that 3 little kids will have nowhere to live. I fear that she will come to me with her hand out and I will say "NO". I will tell her to sell some of her 6 pairs of black leather boots. Stop spending over $1000 per month on dance lessons. Stop getting her hair coloured something new every 6 weeks. Stop with all of the purses. Figure out necessities and go from there.
In the meantime what about her kids that already have problems?
The parental units have washed their hands of her and the 3 once precious and the only worth visiting grandchildren! The once golden daughter has been kicked to the curb. It is ridiculous what nasty people they are. Now both retired, they have a huge, huge pile of money. Millionaires. They don't want the tarnished golden daughter to have a dime until they are dead. And not like I was ever the shining star either. They did increase the Xmas gift this year to $100 per person, double from last year. But if grandparents don't want to spend Christmas with grandchildren is it still a lovely gift? The parental units went away this weekend. Grandma is better. So the first thought is not to see grand kids. That makes it 2 years in a row nothing to do with my kids at Christmas.
I am finding it really hard to bite my tongue. To take the high road. The positive note is that I do know how I never want to be.
Maybe I'm the one that is abnormal?
I am thankful that dh and I are doing really good. In spite of family problems, injuries, job loss, we are on the same page. Our kids are OK and our finances are OK.
We need a new roof in the spring, new tires for the suv, another semester for kid #1. We have a plan and life goes on regardless.
3 comments:
There is nothing you can do for your sister if she is unwilling to help herself, although I know how frustrating that can be!
Counting your blessings is always helpful to put bad things into perspective. You definitely are doing that!!
Hang in there!
I feel bad your parents are the way they are. I have no parents left, but I know the parent and grandparent I want to be. As hard as it is in your situation, it is a life lesson you will learn and your kids and grandkids will be better for it. Good Luck! I try to look away from the past and towards the future.
It's fantastic that you & DH are on the same page during all of this. It's so hard to watch someone that you care about make poor decisions. Fingers crossed that your sister is able to pull herself together & recover, for the sake of her kids.
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